Marwari marriage guidelines to deal with arranged marriages first meet

ShubhLagan Marwari marriage guidelines to relieve you from the awkwardness in dealing with the hurdles, of the arranged marriages first meet

Even though it's arranged, I'm so in love with him, I hope he feels the same. This is a feeling, we all like to experience in our relationship, with our companion for life.

If you are an Indian, and you don't have a boyfriend or a girlfriend, its natural for you to be dragged into an arranged marriage. Out of the blues, you will be expected to look like a celebrity, and will be out there for a photo shoot, only to show your photograph to a potential groom or bride .You initially will protest, about not being ready for marriage, but that cannot go on forever.

The challenge of cracking the first meet, was no task to traditional Indian women and men. That's not the case as on today .So, we decided to use a different strategy for providing contextually and culturally relevant arranged marriage tips to crack the first meet.

Okay!! I've seen the picture, but there isn't much I can tell. It's essential that we take a look on social media platforms, to understand a little more about the character, likes and dislikes of the person, we are about to meet. Social Platforms help you gauge to some extent, the kind of lifestyle he or she has. Instagram and Facebook, throw light on the kind of friends they move with, their career information, how social they are, the places they like to visit, the cuisine preferences, are they extroverts or introverts?, so forth and so on.

Having said this you are more prepared to face what lies ahead and the goal to cracking the first meet is more achievable.

Meet the parents leaving a "Good Impression"

In an Indian set up, parents play a vital role in choosing your life partner, hence it's not just about impressing him or her, but the entire family.

In the arranged marriages scenario, the parents of the boy and the girl interact first. Parents should remember that there are certain details not important enough to be disclosed in the very first meeting as this meeting is not the final one. It is purely meant to understand whether the boy and the girl are right for each other or not. Parents should be careful to not discuss about their children's past relationships.

My son/daughter was in a relationship but that is history: Awkward Moment!! Well

Everyone likes to believe, that there were no exes, and all have a clean slate. Hence it's ethically right, for parents to not dig old graves, they rather concentrate on the sunshine and rainbow after the dark clouds .The prospective in-laws definitely are not keen to hear about your child's ex-relationship or breakup stories. Indian parents, known to be old school and traditional are certainly not comfortable with such conversations, and this would lead to an "awkward moment". Just remember, everyone has a past. It would be best for your children to discuss on this matter, if at all such questions creep up, from the Prospective in-laws. Always remember, God gives you the rainbows after you have handled the storms in life.

A wedding does not have to be expensive to be memorable

It's all about two hearts joining together and staying with each other, through all the highs and lows of life. There's no point in making sure that the wedding will be an extravagant one, we need to remember the financial constraints for both families and come to a consensus, to what's more suitable for each other.

Until And unless you are sure that the match you are trying to make is going any further, there is no point talking about simple or lavish wedding celebrations

These topics are only suitable when both the families are comfortable and committed enough to make compromises and get into an agreement.

Display Positive Affirmation "Today, I create a Bright and happy new day with a wonderful new future".

The first meeting is about getting familiar with one another. You can always dig deeper in further meetings. Always stay positive and imagine for all good things to happen, in your meeting and relationship. Moreover, this is just the first step and it is yet to be confirmed. Release, good vibes to the people you meet and come in contact with.

Incorporate the power of Why?

One of the common approaches, that people often take to, when meeting a prospective match is to ask "what are your hobbies?", "What's your favorite dish?"and so on. Instead use the power "WHY" by reframing your questions to Why you like Dancing or Reading?" or "Why you chose marketing as your career", as this helps better, understand their personality and passions. It would be amazing if you can be ready with some really interesting stories from your life to act as conversation starters or icebreakers.

Display confidence

Confidence in a person is always attractive. Being confident does not mean being boastful. When you are comfortable with yourself and sure of your abilities, people appreciate you. Avoid being fake by trying to look extra nice.

Dress to Impress, Respect goes a long way in any relationship and be vigilant to Personal Hygiene.

Wear clothes that suit the occasion and avoid any attire or colour, that's too loud and exaggerates your personality. Having a confident attitude conveys that you're a reliable person. Be transparent with one another. A special tip for the men "You don't need to be flashy, but rather, be distinctively caring for the girl". Make your woman feel that you love her care for her and can take the pains and efforts to be there for her. Be courteous to all, and have respect for each other's families. Keep your fingernails clean and always make sure your breath is minty fresh! Smell good. Perhaps a great perfume, and wearing clean laundered clothes work wonders.be "Trendy and Smart", as that is always an added charm.

In a successful "First meet" your heart says "When I look at you I feel I'm home"

We at Subhlagan, help our prospective brides and grooms, to have a positive and completely fun outlook at arranged marriages. Freedom of choice, holds important for any successful marriage. It is also great to have the support and blessings of your elders, in any decision made, as it helps you emerge successfully. Always keep in mind, trying to be someone you are not can give you short term victories, it's rewarding to be honest. Always be prepared to face situations, in a calm and composed manner, as maintaining peace is always an added benefit. Keep a broad set of questions in mind before you go for any arranged marriage, first meeting and ask the right questions that will help you in making the right decisions. No one's perfect, we all have our flaws. Cherish the people who have the ability to touch your heart, and avoid any obsessions, to your perspective, of an ideal life partner. Listen to your heart for "God speaks to us, in the silence of our hearts", and have faith that in everything you do, the best will come to you.