Life is like a movie and we all hope to have a happy ending

Most people, especially from Western countries think of arranged marriages as something that parents impose on their children. It is as if love is too frivolous, to base a lifelong commitment on. We now look beyond, what people say and reinvent the whole meaning of arranged marriages. Everyone imagines and creates a picture, of the kind of person they would want to be with. They try hard to find that picture, they create in their minds and give it an identity

Having said this, it is important that we choose the right person in an arranged set up. Though the person may not entirely fit the bill, being open to a few suggestions, could probably give us direction concerning what we need to focus on, while selecting our partner for life.

Respecting one another

It is mandatory for each one to be respected. With respect flows in love, kindness, concern and an attitude to look out for each other in good times and bad. A disrespectful person, will never appreciate anything you do and this could lower your self-esteem, making you believe, you ain't good enough or worthy of respect. So beware of his behavior towards you, your family and society as a whole. This is generally done by people, who feel inferior, themselves in aspects of their own life.

Having similar values

Having similar values reinforces the very foundation of the relationship. Agreement on simple things such as deciding the number of children to have, keeping a check on the finances and being supportive of how each one manages the finances according to ones status . Avoid being a burden to each other, but instead always stride to create a conducive environment for your relationship to thrive.

One must be willing to invest in the relationship to make things work in bringing out the best of one another

A relationship involves two lovely people having their unique personalities. Each partner must be determined to make the relationship beautiful for each other. Your partner must be willing to allocate time for you and demonstrate concern for your feelings and needs. Choose a person who cares and is passionate about you. Be a great listener understand the other person's heart and where he or she is coming from, this will help you to find a solution on common ground.

He/ She must be keen on your life

The person, who believes in being committed in the relationship, will be true and take keen interest to find out what makes you happy, to know your likes and dislikes, to encourage you fulfill your dreams and to watch you advance in your career goals.

Ability to keep you and your family happy

Each should be able to keep the families happy. Your immediate family will always be a support for you. If your prospective partner is unable to cope with any of the members, it could be an indicator that the person isn't the right one for you.

Make sure your life partner is well educated

Education always helps develop your personality. Education helps you acquire, self-confidence and leaves no room for negativity which is a major hindrance to living a happy and successful life. An educated person can look after his family and provide for them. Education brings in several opportunities and allows one to live a more enriched life as it gives you wider opportunities to live life king size. Choosing a laid back person could give rise to problems in the relationship, as the two of them may not be on the same page. This will result is clashes and reflects a red flag in the relationship.

Be a "FRIEND" and avoid any kind of domination

Two people join together to be a support and not a chaos to each other. Great friendship creates the basis, for what love ought to be. Friendship is mandatory for a happy and lasting marriage, as well as the foundation of a healthy marriage. Couples that enjoy great friendship, have greater percentage of satisfaction in their marriage. Emotional connection between married couples must be five times more important than their physical intimacy. Friendly Couples look forward to spending more time together, and genuinely like each other. They go hand in hand in all their decisions because of the positive influence they have on each other. When we build and nurture the marital friendship it strengthens a marriage. Friendship in marriage builds emotional and physical intimacy. Friendship helps them feel safe enough to be more open with one another and keeps away any judgment or insecurities. Nurturing and building, friendship in marriage requires practice and takes time and effort.

Anger Management

In a relationship two people with unique personalities come together.
At times, it gives rise to heated and ugly arguments leading to negative emotions. You might say things and end up hurting one another. Watch out, for any bad reactions from your our potential life partner as it would help you understand a lot about his or her future reactions in a steamed up conversation or intense situation. The less capable your prospective partner is of handling a bad situation or a heated discussion, the more chances of them going out of control after marriage which may not be very pleasant scenario for anybody to deal with.

Find a person who has the ability to "Forgive and Forget"

Forgiving means forgetting, instead of dwelling on the past, feel free to protect yourself and move on. Forgiveness puts you in a position of strength. It gives you emotional space, to make decisions that are best for you. You get stronger and confident and can decide if you want to work things out, or just walk away or do something else. People who forgive are happier, hopeful, optimistic, and successful and have a solution to their problems. People, who forgive easily, report significantly lesser physical issues of stress such as a backache, muscle strains, headaches and upset stomachs. Forgiveness increases the energy and overall well-being in your body. A forgiving person always builds relationships and does not break them.

To conclude, there may not be an exact tip on how you can choose the best. One needs to stay positive and enjoy every opportunity life brings to them and work at making their relationship a wonderful experience of love to last for a life time. As arranged marriages also bloom to love and there are enough of happy couples in our society to prove this. Subhlagan encourages and guides those seeking potential partners and helps them on their journey to a new beginning. As quoted "To love is to give someone a piece of your heart that you will never, ever reclaim."

We at Subhlagan believe that Marriages are made in Heaven and there is definitely someone special out there, waiting to share their lovely moments with you. So let's not waste anymore of our precious time, and begin this adventure to meet the "Love of your Life".